- encouraging Godly sexuality in a challenging and uplifting way;
- accessible to a wide range of people with differing comfort levels;
- honouring and celebrating the sacredness, beauty, and power of the Christian marriage bed.
The following questions should be helpful in deciding what to post:
1) Does this post invite people to imagine my spouse and/or myself naked and/or being sexual.
2) Is this post likely to cause someone to stumble (especially those getting out of porn).
3) Could it be offensive to reasonable, more-or-less sexually well-adjusted people?
4) Is this post likely to cause jealousy for those who have sexual struggles in their marriage?
If the answer to those four questions are all no, then the post is probably safe. However, a yes does not make the post unacceptable. If you answer yes to one or more of the questions above, then ask yourself this:
5a) Is what I'm posting offering information that is helpful to others?
5b) If you are asking a question - Will answers to this question help my marriage any?
If the answer to #5 is no, and the answer to one or more of the four questions is yes, the post is probably not a good idea.
If the answer to #5 is yes, then ask yourself if you can share the useful information in a way that is less likely to result in a yes to any of the first four questions.
A few other guidelines -
Don't use the most explicit posts as a guide - this is how the line drifts. Assume that the most explicit posts are just over the line, and post accordingly.
When possible, try to speak in general terms, rather than painting a picture of what you and your spouse do.
Avoid unnecessary detail - we don't need to know she had on a red thong that showed all of her butt - just say "sexy panties", nor do we need to know "he ejaculated a lot of semen, and it shot real high" - simply say he had a great orgasm.
Slang terms tend to be more sexual. "Her crotch was very wet" is more explicit than "she was well lubricated."
Overly descriptive words and phrases ("throbbing," "arched," "gasped," "moaned," etc.) are potentially too explicit, and usually unnecessary.
A few places where a fair amount of detail may be needed:
- In seeking help for something - use whatever detail is necessary to clarify the problem.
- In answering such questions - try to make the answer general, not "here's how my spouse and I do it".
- In describing positions.