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mama108 wrote:He believes but does not walk.
I tried to introduce him to christian rock music, christian movies et...
He went one time with me and sat in the cafe and drank a cup of coffee with me until church started.
You cannot force someone to share something so intimate as worshiping the Lord.
He had this problem when we first got married, but I thought it was ok because I trusted what he told me. It was just recently that I found the 2 magazines.
I thought I was just so repulsive that he just could not bring himself to be with me. He works in a enviroment that is all men and I know he is exposed to it all the time. I do not know how much he looks.But I read that
We have counseling at our church but he is one to say I will do this on my own
It sounds like the biggest problem you have as a couple is you don't communicate well and leave your problems alone until they are long past due.
If he works too much, get a job. If he doesn't like your church, find one with him. If he's stressed about the kids, get him to spend more time with them. If you think you are unattractive, go to the gym. If he's having health issues, get him to go to the gym. If he's been on night shift for years and goes to work late, make him find a new job on day shift. Take a vacation with or without the kids.
Talk with him. Confront him. If being nice doesn't work, then be tough.
Plus I had opened up to a few christian friends concerning finances and other issues and they told me I should not be complaining and I should not speak certain things such as saying my son is autistic. When I say he is autistic I am making him autistic. They then told me that he cannot be saved because he is non verbal and he cannot proclaim Jesus as Lord so he is not going the Heaven
MayDayGirl wrote:Agreeing with the others: FIND A NEW CHURCH NOW!!!!!!!!!! That is just sick that anyone would say a child with any sort of disability can't be saved. Just sick. Read the scriptures and examine how Jesus treated children and those with physical and mental issues. Then try to imagine what Jesus would say to the people in your congregation who would tell you that your son won't get into heaven because he is non-verbal.
mama108 wrote: How often have you guys approached each other for sex over the last 10 years? Maybe 3 or 4 times. It is me that does the approaching, he usually has some type of excuse. I have the HD and he has always been LD even in his 20's. I wanted him to get tested for low testosterone and for diabetes. I did not mention about the l ow testosterone because I did not want him to feel bad. So I asked him to get his sugar tested beause that runs in his family. At first he said ok, then he has made excuses ever since. He will approach me by touching me and saying how much he wants me. But that is ALWAYS when we can not go any further for some reason or another. But when we can go further he is distant and tired.
mama108 wrote: He left for work at 9 pm and left me note telling me that he is sorry and that he wants to change. But one of the problems that he always has is going full forse and then fizzeling out no matter what he is doing, except for work at his job.
mama108 wrote: We have counseling at our church but he is one to say I will do this on my own. Where as I need to talk to someone.
mama108 wrote:Concerning what I do for myself. I do not have time for that. I have many therapists that work with my son. I work with them because I do not treat them like baby sitters. They are here to teach us as a family how to deal with my sons behavior and developmental issues. I respect them enough to not use them in the wrong way. Plus I take care of everything in the house….
mama108 wrote: Plus I had opened up to a few christian friends concerning finances and other issues and they told me I should not be complaining and I should not speak certain things such as saying my son is autistic. When I say he is autistic I am making him autistic. They then told me that he cannot be saved because he is non verbal and he cannot proclaim Jesus as Lord so he is not going the Heaven. After that I just decided to stay to myself.
mama108 wrote: But I do not want him touching me now because I cannot compete with those women in the magazines and I will never be sure he is not thinking about them while we ML.
mama108 wrote: I have been wanting to go to counseling but he is a very "to himself" person. He goes to work and comes home that is it. I go to the relatives for all the holidays with the kids and he really just likes being to himself. So I will have a hard time getting him to open up to a stranger.
mama108 wrote: Concerning communication, you are all right. We just let life go by and functioned in what we thought we should be doing. Not a good thing. It was so nice talking to him today. I really opened up to him. He opened up also. Thanks for the advice.
mama108 wrote: I would like to ask for prayer for one thing (if it is ok) My husband is trying for a new position, That position will free him up from all the hours that he has been working. We will have more time for each-other.
mama108 wrote: Also can someone tell me, am I going into a different topic and did I write to much. If so what should I do. I really am not sure how this works.
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