My wife still says she enjoys sex, but I really want to help her have an orgasm! I've made several suggestions:
- I've read here on TMB, and in some of the books we've read together, that it can be beneficial for a newlywed wife to spend some time alone exploring her own body, seeing what feels good, seeing what brings her to an orgasm, etc. I've encouraged her to do this, but she doesn't feel very comfortable doing it. She occasionally masturbated before we met, but hasn't since we've met. We've discussed the topic a few times, and neither of us has any moral qualms with it, but she does have a bit of a subconscious discomfort with it because of her upbringing.
- I've suggested she talk with someone, to get advice. She has a couple of friends who have been married much longer and have offered to chat anytime she wants to about sex...but she feels awkward talking to anyone but me about sex.
- I've suggested she come on here and get advice. She's been receptive to the idea but has never followed through and actually signed up for an account or posted anything...but we have read/skimmed the boards together from time to time.
- I've heard that vibrators can be helpful, so we bought a we-vibe. We've used it 3-4 times in the 3 months or so we've had it, and it's pretty much been like when I touch her--it reaches a point where it feels too intense and she turns it off.
Sex is getting to the point where it almost feels selfish since I always have an orgasm and she never does. I really want to be able to serve her in bed, but I'm not sure what to try next.
Any suggestions for what to try now? We're planning a weekend away for 4 weekends from now (as a join 6 month anniversary / valentine's day thing). It'd be great if we can make some progress on this before than, or while we're away.