The OG

[tmbadmin]

Managing a discussion group is always a challenge, and a group discussing sexual issues has additional challenges. As the Marriage Bed e-mail list grew, Paul and Lori felt the need to have wise counsel to help us define and manage the forum. The oversight group (OG) was formed in March of 2001 to provide this help. The OG sets rules and policy, mediates problems between individuals, and keeps an eye on Paul and Lori. When The Marriage Bed became a non-profit ministry, the board of directors authorised the OG to continue to do what it had been doing so well.

The members of the OG are not identical in their views, and often when an issue arises there are various ideas about what should be done. Usually a consensus is reached, but occasionally it comes down to a majority vote. All members of the OG are equal in authority.

The 12 members of the OG are all married (some spouses are on the OG, some are not) and all have been a part of the Marriage Bed boards for several years. The political beliefs of the OG members vary, as do certain doctrinal beliefs, but all can say "amen" to the TMB Statement of Faith.

There are currently 8 active OG members, 1 semi-active members, and 3 non-active members. Of the 9 active and semi-active members, four are female. Occupations include white collar, blue collar, clerical collar, T-shirt, professor, and at home mom. Members range in age from 30 to over 50. Years married range from 10 to 25.

The OG is not a hand picked group of "yes men" - on more than one occasion the OG has pushed for something other than what the Byerlys would have done. (And they were right too - Paul.) The boards have been shaped by the OG, and this will continue to be true.

Some OG members have chosen to reveal their names, others have not. Those who have are:

Rev. Dale Kaufman (Dale)
Alise Wright (MamaTo4247)
(dr.mom)
(Ricky&Lucy)
(Mr. Rtk)
Lori Byerly (Lori B)
Paul Byerly (Paul B)

Anyone can PM the OG at "og". Suggestions and concerns about the boards are best sent to the OG, as this is the group that sets policy. Reports of problems or need for help are best dealt with by hitting the report post button on any post - this sends the issue to a larger group of people and results in a quicker response.
Updated 07/09/09

[Paul B]

Back in November we added several folks to the Oversight Group (the OG). These additions have made a big difference to Lori and I, and to the boards as a whole. We have spread the moderation over more people, making it less of a burden. We also now have enough OG to make decisions in a reasonable amount of time.

Lori and I can not say enough about the folks of the OG, and what a help and blessing they are to us. The boards would probably not exist at all without them, and certainly would not be the fine community we all know and love without them. The TMB boards are very much influenced by the OG, and the results are superb. Please ask the Lord to bless our OG in every way (including, of course, great sex lives!).

Several of the OG members have decided to be "outed" and you will see the new OG avatar below their names on their posts. Other OG members remain anonymous, but are still active and important.

The post above has been updated with current information on the OG.

<>< Paul

[Daedalus]

I want to block a few posters when I visit certain threads and I was wondering if there was a way to do that?

[dr.mom]

Currently there is no mechanism to do this.

grace

[BackSpoon]

I want to apologize for my comments in the Mormans and Christians thread today about who TMB members can be. I couldn't find the rules post about TMB being for married and engaged Christians and a partial description of what that means and what our final authority is at the time but I found it now.

http://www.themarriagebed.com/boards/vi ... .php?t=176

Thanks for taking care of that thread.

[MayDayGirl]

I want to apologize for my comments in the Mormans and Christians thread today about who TMB members can be. I couldn't find the rules post about TMB being for married and engaged Christians and a partial description of what that means and what our final authority is at the time but I found it now.

http://www.themarriagebed.com/boards/vi ... .php?t=176

Thanks for taking care of that thread.

Kay,
Was the thread deleted? I thought maybe it got moved to Hot Button Issues, but I couldn't find it there.

[BackSpoon]

Kay,
Was the thread deleted? I thought maybe it got moved to Hot Button Issues, but I couldn't find it there.

That's my best guess. I couldn't find it elsewhere and my own posts are gone from my list of my posts and the fellow (can't think of his name at the moment) who started the thread's posts are not in his list of posts either. Weird part of that is last I looked he still showed 2 posts (that were his first in that thread) and yet no posts were in his history of posts any longer.

[dr.mom]

The thread in question has been removed. If you have any questions, please PM the OG directly.

[waiting]

What does it mean to have 7 posts??? I do not consider myself a newbie
Thanks for your response.
"waiting"

[rose_of_sharon_2]

You have to have made 7 posts on the boards in order to send anyone a private message. You can answer the Polls to increase your post count quickly.

[Prisca]

Hi, couldn't find a place to report technical difficulties so here goes - I've recieved two emails this week letting me know that someone has replied to two separate threads I was watching - when I clicked the link it said that the topic or post does not exist; when I accessed the thread by another route there was no post there - can anyone explain why I'm getting these messages or where these 'invisible posts' could have gone?!
Thanks!

[KyWildcat]

Hi, couldn't find a place to report technical difficulties so here goes - I've recieved two emails this week letting me know that someone has replied to two separate threads I was watching - when I clicked the link it said that the topic or post does not exist; when I accessed the thread by another route there was no post there - can anyone explain why I'm getting these messages or where these 'invisible posts' could have gone?!
Thanks!

Probably posts to the thread that were either SPAM or porn links. These get removed from the board rather quickly (thanks Mods) and you'll get the message you mentioned if you try to access a removed post.

Blessings!
KW

[Prisca]

Great, thanks for the help

[husbandofonewife]

Could we please have an updated list of the current OG membership? I noticed that this thread was started in 2004! Who's still on? Who's not?

[Voveo Uxor]

The members of the OG who wish to be publicly known as such have the "Oversight Group" icon over their avatars.

[husbandofonewife]

Sooooo.....that would be a no?

Ok, I'll browse the 19,767 registered users to figure out which ones are "publicly" making themselves known.

BTW, what's the point of not being "publicly" known as an OG?

[Lori B]

Sooooo.....that would be a no?

Ok, I'll browse the 19,767 registered users to figure out which ones are "publicly" making themselves known.

BTW, what's the point of not being "publicly" known as an OG?

The OG members who wish to be known are Paul, myself, Alise, Dale and Dr. Mom. We give the OG and moderators the choice because realistically speaking you are treated differently when you are known. Being unknown can give you opportunities to minister that you might not otherwise have. The same can be said for being known. I figure it's a choice that is best left to that person as they seek God's direction for their personal ministry.

The OG and moderators routinely bless us here at TMB. They are committed to their own marriages and are growing spiritually (we don't ask for perfection, but we do need God focused people). They are good team players and have a heart to minister to others.

Lori <><

[sprigy's babe]

Lori,

Are ya'll there? Is something up with all these star lesbian posts. It looks a litttle wierd ya'll may want to check it out. There are several on the new posting section

[Voveo Uxor]

Just an ordinary, everyday drive-by spamming. Happens several times a day around here, alas. The mods usually try to jump right on it and get rid of them immediately, but unfortunately there are more spammers than mods and sometimes the spam sits there for a while until a mod or OG member can get to it.

I think we got all the ones that you mentioned -- if any are left, try reporting the post or PM'ing the moderator. Thanks!

[Sarah1]

I'm not understanding what is happening to my 'status', i.e., king bed, and the number of posts. The number of posts I have made is decreasing. I thought that number continued to climb even if the items had been removed over time, otherwise I do not understand how folks get to the thousands with the number of posts. My number of posts decreased overnight by more than ten. Could you please advise? Thanks.