OS during pregnancy

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OS during pregnancy

Postby madcar16 » Wed Aug 19, 2015 5:30 pm

My midwives have always mentioned no OS during pregnancy.....does anybody know why this is? I can see if you were not in a monogamous relationship- which seems to be what most of the 'do's and dont's' of pregnancy stem from (dr's legally covering themselves)..... DH was just getting good at it AND our liberator wedge/ramp just came in the mail today (which I saved cc points for FOREVER). I just got a positive test yesterday and was a bit sad when I realized we can't do OS anymore. I'm too embarrassed to ask my midwife why exactly we need to refrain from doing that. :oops: Any advice?

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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby InGodsGrace » Wed Aug 19, 2015 5:35 pm

Blowing into the vagina can cause an embolus to form and can be deadly.

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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby madcar16 » Wed Aug 19, 2015 6:05 pm

So if you avoid blowing it's ok?

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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby OldMarriedLady » Wed Aug 19, 2015 6:11 pm

DH has never blown into my vagina during OS in all our 30-some years together. I don't see how there would be any chance of that happening, as OS is licking, not blowing. Pretty sure we went ahead with it when I was pregnant (it's been so long now I don't remember). The force with which air would have to be introduced into the vagina sufficient to cause an embolism would take quite an effort.

You shouldn't be embarrassed to ask your midwife though - who knows, there may be another reason I'm not familiar with. Better safe than sorry, right? I'm sure she's heard it all by now.
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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby girliegirl511 » Wed Aug 19, 2015 6:14 pm

Always check with your midwives before trying anything! But my midwives gave us the "OK" for OS. I needed OS on those days when intercourse was too exhausting to think about. And just an FYI, it's a great thing post partum too!

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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby mamame » Wed Aug 19, 2015 8:01 pm

If you have normal anatomy, the possibility of an air emboli is incredibly remote. I'm not sure it's even ever been documented in anyone without one. In addition, I think all documented cases involved mechanical introduction of pressurized air.
It's been a couple of years since I looked it up though.
I would ask her what her reasoning is.
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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby C_Brown » Wed Aug 19, 2015 9:56 pm

InGodsGrace wrote:Blowing into the vagina can cause an embolus to form and can be deadly.


Isn't that true when not pregnant too?
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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby C_Brown » Wed Aug 19, 2015 9:58 pm

The only thing I can think of is perhaps her pH balance changing down there leaving her more prone to infection. Don't know if that is the case, just trying to come up with a possible reason. The mouth is the most germy part of your body.
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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby InGodsGrace » Thu Aug 20, 2015 2:27 am

C_Brown wrote:
InGodsGrace wrote:Blowing into the vagina can cause an embolus to form and can be deadly.


Isn't that true when not pregnant too?


Yes. That was the only thing I could think of though.

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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby George B. » Thu Aug 20, 2015 5:12 am

sounds like it could be about the air embolus or perhaps concern about possible infection. OS in general is safe, even during pregnancy, as long as he avoids blowing into the vagina.
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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby tentsofpurple » Fri Aug 21, 2015 10:26 am

I've had three different midwives and a group of 4 OBs (four pregnancies total) and none of them have ever restricted os during pregnancy except for a short time when I was on pelvic rest for a low lying placenta. I'd definitely bring it up and clarify why exactly its off the table.
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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby madcar16 » Tue Aug 25, 2015 11:15 am

Thanks for the advice. I think it's interesting that others have not been limited n OS during pregnancy. I have had 5 different OBs or midwives and they've all told me not to do it. I will certainly clarify next time if I'm advised of that again. I haven't clarified yet because I was embarrassed to, we didn't used to do it so it wasn't an issue to abstain, and lastly my children are usually with me :shock: THAT would make for an interesting conversation!

Unfortunately I had a very early miscarriage so I won't be needing to worry about it for now. Thanks again for all the input.

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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby SeekingChange » Tue Aug 25, 2015 11:50 am

So sorry for your loss. ::bh
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Re: OS during pregnancy

Postby madcar16 » Tue Aug 25, 2015 5:40 pm

Thank you. My other 3 miscarriages were heart breaking. This may sound odd/cruel but I wasn't attached to this one. I can't quite explain it, but I only knew for a week and I didn't "feel" like it was...... going to 'stick'....... for lack of a better word. I fully believe life starts at conception. And I know I sound crazy. I think it was just God's grace in keeping me from more heartbreak? I don't know. I just feel like I started a normal period though.


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