Job29Man wrote:Mr. Rkt thank you so much for sharing so in depth. I'm really interested in comments about what people here have learned to get and keep an erection without use of pharmaceuticals.
Hey!
I was wondering, would you consider bio-identical testosterone a pharmaceutical? I wrote about my recent expereinces
here concerning my own
very serious ED problem. As well as the solution.
Do you remember Sienfeld on 'shrinkage'?
Yep. It really was like a frightened turtle. It was actually
receeding into me and often felt numb.
Even Viagra had lost it's effectiveness on me.
In short, my testosterone was nearly zero. I began using a prescribed bio-identical testosterone cream and within a week saw a
very noticable difference in my ability to get and maintain an erection.
An on-going difference that kept improving as I lost weight.
Now I'm hangin'! Just like in the good 'ol days!
And my precious one is
very impressed!
Really, you need to have a blood work-up done on you by a physician
who understands how to re-balance you using these bio-identical hormones. Because
just prescribing these hormones
without this understanding of balance will likely increase your problems.
Even if your physician poo-poos you, because he doesn't know of this, (remember doctors are humans, too, just like you. And they have 'good cause' to have big egos) the test alone will tell you something. 'Cause if your hormones are low, there will be no response because there is nothing there that your body can use to respond with!
I realize, now, that my mind
was aroused by my wife but my body did not have what it needed to make my arousal apparent and thus useful. And yes, I did think, and debilitatingly so, that there was something wrong in my heart-of-thoughts because my body wasn't responding to my wife like she and I knew it should.
If your mind is aroused but your body is not then likely it is not 'you' or 'her' but your body needing something it no longer has. So, you will likely not be able to respond well to anything either she or you can do.
That being said, I would like to provide, from my own experiences, what you are asking for.
Job29Man wrote:So discussions that would be helpful are...
1. What a man can do before and during.
Think about sex with her. Think.Think.Think. Imagine it,
in detail. And spend some private time nude to find out what you can think of that will coax him 'out of his shell'. Your mind is the best sex organ you have.
2. What his wife can do before and during.
For me there is nothing else as arousing as a good, erotic conversation with my wife, talking about what turns us on. A candle-lit room with a bottle of wine while sitting next to my seductively dressed wife also helps to enhance the conversation. But sometimes, just talking about our sexuality in the car is more than enough.
Also, does she allow you to tease, cuddle, fondle and pat her, during the course of the day? Does she return the favors? Would you find that arousing?
3. What kinds of thoughts might help.
Any that work.
4. Visual and other stimulus.
I find the sight of my wife, with her wedding ring on, 'opening her flower wide to the sun in my eyes' while 'showing me how its done' to be quite arousing.
Also, she knows how to 'give me a show' when she is doing me. This helps.
5. Nutrition, exercise, food supplements.
These aren't likely to help much if you need to loose weight. But good nutrition, while avoiding fast food like it was dangerous,
which it is, will help. Supplements will only work if you have enough there for it to work with.
6. Other...
I like to read erotic poetry to her. As well as reading it on my own.
Also explore the meaning of Eros. There are some good articles on line about Eros written from a Christian perspective. And read some that aren't, as well.
Above all, know thyself.
I hope you find this helpful.
And be good, just as you were created to be!
