Decreasing sexual appetite/desire

Low or no sex drive?
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Decreasing sexual appetite/desire

Postby dc9 » Wed Feb 03, 2016 4:04 pm

Hi!

I will try to explain my concern the best I can.

The last maybe two years I have felt like my sexual desire/appetite has gradually decreased. I had a very high drive before that. I still like to have sex with DW, but many times I also feel that it's not really necessary. That I'd rather go to sleep instead. I have never felt like this before. "48 hours without sex and I would be grumpy" was my normal.

I'm in my late 40's. I work long hours for a couple of days and then have a couple of days off in between. I feel constantly tired due to hard work both away from our home and at home with three kids age 6-11. I stopped a rather long time use of porn about two years ago as well (about the same time I started to feel my desire decrease). I seldom masturbate nowadays. I just don't feel like it.

My DW have had a sexual awakening since about that time as well (two years ago), and we ML about every other day. The frequency is at the best since we got married 15 years ago. So when she let herself loose and started to really enjoy sex, and I can get all my sexual needs taken care of, my sexual appetite goes away and I just feel bad.

I would also like to add that I still desire my DW and we are very much in love, but the sexual appetite is just not there.

I think a lot about what may be wrong with me.

Is it my age?
Is it because I'm so tired?
Is it about hormones?
Is it somehow related to not using porn anymore?

I don't know if this makes any sense at all, but if there is anyone that is able to understand the thoughts I've tried to describe I would really appreciate your thoughts about my situation.

Thanks!

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Re: Decreasing sexual appetite/desire

Postby ghostrider » Wed Feb 03, 2016 4:08 pm

Yes
Yes
Yes
Maybe, but mostly the first 3

Step 1 is always get your T level checked when you are over 40. You said you feel "bad" after sex, so it could definitely be low T.

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Re: Decreasing sexual appetite/desire

Postby SeekingChange » Wed Feb 03, 2016 4:45 pm

It sounds to me like it could very much be low testosterone. ... get it checked..
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Re: Decreasing sexual appetite/desire

Postby jokerman » Wed Feb 03, 2016 7:51 pm

I've also noticed this in the last few years, now that I've hit my fifties. I think it's natural that a man at 52 is going to experience life differently than he did at 32 and 22, so I don't sweat it.

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Re: Decreasing sexual appetite/desire

Postby Drob » Wed Feb 03, 2016 9:00 pm

I'm with jokerman on this one, as I get older I find I slow down and enjoy other things that I once rushed through to O. It more of a canoe ride rather than a speed boat.

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Re: Decreasing sexual appetite/desire

Postby txtwindad » Wed Feb 03, 2016 9:41 pm

He said his sexual appetite is gone and he just feels bad. This isn't simply getting older. Check your T levels.
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Decreasing sexual appetite/desire

Postby dc9 » Thu Feb 04, 2016 3:14 am

Thanks! What I meant by "feeling bad" was that I am sad and sorry that I don't desire all the wonderful stuff connected to making love with my DW nearly as much as I did a few years ago (when we were limited due to DW's gatekeeping) now that I can have it all almost whenever I/we want to.

I will try to muster enough courage to talk to my doctor about it and have my hormones checked.
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Re: Decreasing sexual appetite/desire

Postby SeekingChange » Thu Feb 04, 2016 3:20 am

You could check out discountedlabs.com and see if that is an option for you. They have a T and Tfree test that you can order, and then you just go into a lab (if they are in your area, that's what you need to check out), and you get the results, no doctors at this point. Once you get your numbers, you can decide what to do or where to go from there. That is what my husband used.
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Re: Decreasing sexual appetite/desire

Postby dc9 » Thu Feb 04, 2016 3:45 am

SC: I live in Europe, and I'm not sure how it works over here... I think I have to talk to a doctor... But thanks anyway!


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