brazilian laser hair removal...

[proverbs31gal]

I've been considering getting laser hair removal to remove all hair "down below" permanently. Anyone looked into this?

[jokerman]

I think I need to read Proverbs 31 again.

[proverbs31gal]

What do you mean?

[jokerman]

what do you mean by that?

Sorry, just a goofy thought that popped into my head. Your user name is proverbs31gal, a woman who has always been known for her thrift, kindness, efficiency and well-rounded approach to life.

Now, I'm thinking she used some of her hard-earned money for a secret trip to the salon.

[landschooner]

Its permanent right? Then ask. Just in case. For some it could be "Totally HOT!" For others......"

(First a Caveat : I'm not trying to be critical here of anyone who has done this. I've learned from TMB that many people like this A LOT)

I remember listening to Dr. Laura once, and she had a male caller call in who asked Dr. L. how to handle the situation wherein his wife had shaved her pubic hair. She did it for him, to be exciting etc, and he really liked her reason for doing it, but for him, it reminded him of a little girl, not a woman. He didn't like it but he didn't want to hurt her feelings.

Personally, I don't think it would be a turn off for me, and may even be a turn on because she did SOMETHING sexual, but I think, given a choice, I'd prefer it just the way it is.

The point is that everyone is different so IMHO, I think it wiser to ask. (If you don't ask, why not just shave first before making it permanent? Permanent IS permanent after all.)

Anyway, just my 2 cents.

LS

[sweetangel]

well my dh prefers hair there. So I think you should ask as this affects both of you forever.

[proverbs31gal]

Yes, in response to jokerman, I did save like the Proverbs31 woman wisely for this expenditure...yahoo!

Landschooner, thank you for your response. It was well voiced on both sides.

I could ask, but honestly, if I put myself in my fiance's shoes and HE asked me what I thought about him doing this 6 months before our wedding night, I know my gears would really get a turnin'.

That's interesting about Dr. Laura. I could see how that might be one man's opinion.

The way I view it, I would want him to do what he most perfers for himself personally and however I found him on our wedding night, I would love him exactly that way. I have never seen a fully naked man and so whatever I see with him is what I'm going to be very pleased with! So those were my thoughts in going through with this on my side of things personally.

I believe he'll love me just as I am and how he finds me on my wedding night. One thing is for sure, he's going to have quite the surprise when he finds out that I'm not "miss innocent" and how sexually wired I am--but only for him and in the context of marriage! Worship God with al your heart, soul, mind, and body, right?

[Bridetobe406]

Consider that YOU might change your mind down the road. After years of being bare, I'm finding keeping hair is a turn on for myself. It makes ME feel more womanly.

[MayDayGirl]

It seems rather drastic to do something permanent, esp. since you are not married yet. These trends come and go and maybe 20 years from now, you will wish you could go back to au natural.

If you do not want to discuss this with your fiance now, maybe it would be better to wait until after the marriage and get his opinion then.

[GrantUsGrace]

Count me in as one more DH who prefers some hair down there. (Plenty, acutally .) I remember when we were first married it was a real turn on for me because it reminded me that DW was a fully mature woman.

[hammerboys'dad]

My DW shaves and has for many years, after She shaved for childbirth many years ago. I prefer shaved, but I must admit that I think the others are being wise in their advice. If you deffinately want to be smooth, do something that is not permanant until after you and your intended have been married for a while. Shave or wax, until you and your husband decide what you like.

One more suggestion, if you are sure you want to laser, leave a "landing strip" for some flexability. Sometimes when DW shaves, she does that and the change is nice.

If I was doing premarital counseling with you, that is what I would suggest.

HBD

[naturegirl]

Laser hair removal is not actually permanent. You will need two or so annual maintenance treatments for a few years to keep it up, so if the concern is that you will be forever altering your "hair do", no worries there. You always have the option, later on, to not do the maintenance and let it grow back (though there would probably be less of it), if that is what your fh would prefer.

You can always ask him about his preference a few months down the road, when you are closer to the wedding. If you find out he prefers hair, you can cancel your remaining treatments and will still have some hair (though it will be finer and softer-which to me would be a plus.)

And I would phrase the question in general terms: "Some women remove all of their hair down there. What do you think of that?" As opposed to "Would you like me to be completely bare?"

[alittleflower]

Perhaps you should talk about it first, and then maybe if he wants you all bare, then do the laser treatments after you've been married for a while. Since you've not had sex yet, (I am not married yet either), you don't really know for sure what each other likes--only what you think you'll like. Do what makes you feel comfortable!

I trim a bit, but I used to shave like everything because I thought it would be nice for when we got married. But when I told FH about the annoyances of shaving, he told me I should never have to do that for him--just leave it natural, or do what I want. I've heard some guys think that any hair except head hair is gross on a woman--but most guys don't mind I think.

[Adaya]

Have you ever had a brazilian wax? (as in, do you know what it will look like?) You might think that is a silly question, but when I first shaved everything, it freaked me out! I hadn't been hairless since before puberty, so it took a long time for me not to be surprised when I saw myself. I would suggest practicing in less permanent ways until you find something you like.

[MJDFARM]

Seems to be alot of nay sayers here. Do what you like! I personally like it bare but others do not. I think your FH will like it any way you present it. I do think you should discuss it with him because it is a big step but if you dont thats ok too. I do not think asking his opinion will cause him too much distress. In fact it may head off future stress.

The bottom line is it is your body and ultimatley he loves you-not your pubic hair. Im sure he would want you to be happy with whatever you decide. Good luck!

[plainsofabraham]

I am going to throw in my two cents and suggest that 6 mos from wedding is an excellent time to me talking about this stuff. Some aspects of sex may require some time to process and you don't want to find out about difficult considerations when you start getting RSVPs.

[Sarah1]

I had a few thoughts on this. One, you might actually want some hair if you are concerned about friction, but you can also use coconut oil to take care of this too. Secondly, it might be good to discuss, but ultimately the decision would be yours. While it's not the same, I wouldn't expect a woman to be disturbed because she found out her FH was or wasn't circumcized, so I can't imagine why this should be such a big deal either. You are what you are, but I think that most couples discuss some aspects of their anatomy prior to marriage to avoid surprises or problems, i.e., men letting their FW know that they are large in size so that the woman can be prepared either physically or mentally for that, etc. I think disclosure of some things should occur prior to marriage.

[Achinoam]

I'm definitely on board with the ones who are telling you to use some caution with this. I would NEVER do anything permanent before marriage. There are so many variables, and even your FH might not necessarily know what his preference would be, and it might change over time anyway. I would really recommend postponing this until way after marriage, because you get to experiment with and without your hair while lovemaking before you know which way is better for you.

In my experience, hair or no hair drastically changes sensations during sex. You want to experiment with each variation a lot before making a permanent decision. I personally absolutely prefer to have hair down there because it greatly influences my ability to orgasm. I cannot fully explain why that is, but I cannot orgasm as easily without hair as when there is hair.

[SmallTownClown]

Greetings:

While I'm going to fall into the don't permanently eradicate the shrubbery (the bush), my reasons are different. While I don't care what you do - cut, trim, or defoliate - you are missing an excellent opportunity for some fun between you and husband to be. If you trust HTB and he would like to indulge your desire to be exfoliated, let him wield the weed whacker. The couple that shaves together ___________________ together!

Sounds like fun to me.

God Bless & I hope you'll enjoy the Nuptials,
sTc

[sweetangel]

I personally absolutely prefer to have hair down there because it greatly influences my ability to orgasm. I cannot fully explain why that is, but I cannot orgasm as easily without hair as when there is hair.

OH wow I am not the only one than. I O easily but when shaved it doesn't seem to come as quick or as easy.