This discussion reminds me of the old sayings. "Beauty is only skin deep." And " Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." As Christians many of us are taught from day one to look at people beyond the physical beauty. We are to look at other people's souls. We are to put on God's glasses given to us in the Spirit. Yes physical attractiveness does play a part in what may first draw us towards a person or may scare us away from a person but we are to judge a person by there character. Christian friends and I have talked about this and we all admitted that we were all attracted to different women for different reasons. I am attracted to auburn haired, green eyed, freckled women. Others were attracted to blondes, some were attracted to brunettes, a couple were attracted to Asian women, a couple to Latin American women, etc. We each had a standard or physical beauty. Now yes we recognized what was beautiful in general but we we found we were attracted to our certain different types for different reasons.
My best man and one of my best friends is blind. In getting to know him and be around him I learned this lesson of looking at the inner beauty of others. When he met his future wife it was more of a mental attraction for both. He is white and she is black. He from a more rural city and she was from an inner big city. He was blind and she had sight. But both were in love with Jesus and followed Him. They knew within weeks of meeting they were made for each other. I remember at their wedding I was sitting with a couple of older ladies in their church. One lady turned to the other and made the comment that my friend was truly color blind. The other lady commented that they saw deep love and desire for each other when they saw my friends together.
Jump ahead to me and my wife. Yes I knew quite a few women who were, by the world's view, very good looking all through high school and college. Many were friends. But none attracted any attention. When I met my future wife, yes I found her very pretty. But guess what came out to be more attractive than her physical appearance? Her inner beauty. There were many young men that chased after her because of her beauty. Some saw the inner beauty also, but the physical drove them more. So yes physical beauty by my standards drove me to want to talk to her more but it was the other parts that kept me interested to want to be around her more and more. I fell in love with her laugh, her smile, and yes her green eyes. I can go on with her inner and outer beauty. Other may see her as a plain Jane, but to this Twit she is a perfect 10. I was attracted to her mind and her body.
Another thought. How many have seen a dog show? There is a great dog show around thanksgiving weekend here in the states, I think thanksgiving. There are ugly dogs and there are beautiful dogs. But each is first judged on the criteria of what the individual breed's standards. Then when they are brought to get her first for the best of class /group (working, hunting, hound, etc.) they are compared again not against each other but as which one is the best of their breed in comparison to the other ones. This means that if you are comparing a miniature beagle against a standard beagle you cannot compare them against each other but which one represents their breed better. This also becomes the judging for the best of show. Yes there is a standard that each judge is to use but the judge also has a free will to see other qualities beyond the standard of physicality.
I bring that up because my train of thought is as I am attracted to certain breeds of dogs (beagles, spaniels, Britiany), certain cattle (Holsteins, Herefords, Guernseys, Jerseys), and other types of animals. Likewise I found I was attracted to Christian women above all other women. I was also attracted to conservative Christian women. On top of that I was attracted to conservative, protestant Christian women. And then add on the idea of a woman willing to live and share her faith with others, not being a passive Christian. Thus the pool of women I was attracted to was much smaller than many men who I knew that went after anything wearing a skirt. I think that many of us have certain attractions that cannot be completely explained other than maybe our upbringing, what we find beautiful, what gets our juices flowing, and other items that just can not be quantified.
Thus going back to the original OP what is beautiful to me may not be beautiful to my brother. Likewise what makes the juices flowing for one woman does not drive another woman. God made each of us as unique individuals. There are no two of us a like. Each of us comes to Christ different ways and accepts the salvation given to us by Christ's death and resurrection differently because of our uniqueness. Likewise we each were attracted to our spouses differently. But as we go through life together we find more and more beauty in our life mate which keeps us coming back to them and falling in love with them on a daily basis. Yes there are flaws but if we are in a healthy relationship the flaws get corrected or removed and the other aspects grow over or take over those flaws.